If you suspect your partner is cheating on you and you don’t know what to do, here are some steps to take:
We all know it could be so sad to see your partner cheat on you, especially when they haven’t ended the relationship with you.
Most of this concern might seem logical due to how rampant cheating is everywhere.
So, if you ever find yourself suspecting that your partner is cheating on you or maybe he is getting close to committing the deed, what and what are the next steps to take?
What do you do when you feel suspicious of your partner?
The very first step is to calm your nerves and ask what the reasons for your suspicions are.
What makes you think your partner is cheating on you?
This could be the difference between overreacting and nipping potential deals in the bud. It is always better to evaluate the situation from all possible angles instead of reacting abruptly.
If your partner is on the sidelines, behaving strangely, comes home later than normal from work, avoids s3x and all, you may be tempted to quickly suspect that he is in a relationship.
However, while all of these signs could be giving up on a cheating partner, they’re not always signs of cheating and extramarital words.
What if their separation was the result of personal professional / personal struggles they don’t want to involve you in … yet.
What if the weirdness was a sign of their unhappiness over something you did wrong but refused to acknowledge or apologize for? You have the photo now, right?
The point is, don’t be too quick to conjure up non-existent or inconsistent evidence of cheating when all your partner probably needs at that point is for you to be there for them.
Communicate with your partner
At some point in all this buildup of suspicion, you will need to persuade your partner and have a conversation about all the things you are concerned about.
If it gives you reason to suspect that you have been betrayed, then you better talk about it. Those latecomers, the sneaky phone colleague whose name always shows up in their speeches and all, you have to ask questions, talk about how uncomfortable it makes you feel.
This conversation will be better if your tone is not judgmental or accusatory.
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Don’t accuse until you have proof
You don’t want to blame your partner until you have clear evidence to back up those claims.
Going too hard on accusations will only lead you to a denial, and if it is true that they are cheating, they will become more alert, wary and you may not catch them anymore.
Who are you talking to?
If you have genuine reasons for suspecting your partner of cheating – they regularly and silently receive phone calls at odd times, have become more protective of mobile devices, a colleague’s name continues to appear uncomfortable in their speeches, etc. the next thing you may want to consider is talking to someone.
But who exactly should you talk to?
Note that you don’t have to tell anyone. But if you feel you can’t handle it yourself, then it’s nice to confide in someone, as long as the person can assess the situation from a dispassionate point of view.
Your whimsical friend who has a colorful history of misjudgments and recklessness probably isn’t the person to talk to here.
Counselors, trusted friends, and older people who can keep secrets and have proven themselves wise in the past are options to consider.
Attack or turn?
And if it turns out that your partner is actually cheating on you, what would you do? Stay with them or turn around?
Would you leave yourself with no chance of redemption or could you try to give them another chance depending on the circumstances surrounding the relationship?
You’ll need to consider this beforehand, too, so your mind is caught on what step to take if your suspicions are confirmed.
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